Growing up, I was quite cynical. I had an unhealthy outlook and lifestyle that reflected that attitude. This led to a lot of bad situations, poor health, and many regrets. Reversing an attitude means addressing the patterns that support it. This process can take a while. I’m coming to believe it’s a lifelong journey.
I think of good money management as just one aspect of life. It’s just as important as eating healthy, having an active, balanced lifestyle, and fostering positive relationships personally and professionally. I think most of us want to live a long happy, healthy, and financially comfortable life. To me, personal wealth and success exist because of a good balance among the following:
Managing to do these things all the time might be asking too much of yourself. However, it’s possible to make decent progress as we set bigger long-term goals and work towards them via smaller, short-term goals. Practice makes progress. The perfection we might be looking for actually exists in each moment along the way. Perfection is not a final, absolute state that appears at the finish line. All those small victories–whether or not they’re exactly what you expected–are what build you and your life.
Having said all that, I’m going to talk about the results of my StickK Challenge which I just completed this week. It was a two-month long challenge where I was to lose a certain amount of weight. Health is a form of wealth, and for a bit, I had lost my way. Last summer I pigged out on way too much ice cream for two months and found myself in an unhappy place physically, emotionally, and mentally. I wanted to work off last summer’s indulgence to get back to my healthy weight. I needed the motivation of losing money to make it happen. And it worked! Kinda…
So this is how it works. You sign up with StickK and set your goal and the time frame you’d like to accomplish it in. You also put money on the line, so if you don’t meet your goals, you have to pay whatever amount you can’t bear to lose. You decide what amount is enough to motivate you to hit your goal. The challenge is not effective until you submit your credit card.
The challenge is broken up into increments. If you want to lose 10 lbs in 10 weeks, then you have to lose 1 pound per week. If you decided to put $1000 on the line, then you stand to lose $100 for each week you don’t hit your target. The money can go to someone you designate or to a charity of StickK’s choice. (Apparently, the people most successful with their StickK challenges were those who decided to pay someone they disliked.) If you meet the weekly requirement, you get to keep your money that week.
So let’s say on Week 5 you reported your weight, but you didn’t hit your target for that week, you only lost half a pound. You’re charged $100 that week. The following week, you’re expected to lose 1 pound — you’re not expected to lose 1.5 lbs to catch up. StickK adjusts the end goal but you’re still expected to lose weight at the same rate.
I was unsuccessful for two periods, so I had to pay up twice. I found when I was unsuccessful, I got more motivated to get more consistent with my level of activity, sleep, and healthy eating (helpful tip: garlic helps you shed weight!). The end result: I missed my final goal by a small amount but I’m now back in my ideal weight range; I also lost a bit of money in the process. Had I not done the challenge, that same amount of money might have been spent on the same not-so-great food I was eating.
The challenge was totally worth it. I’ve got a better awareness of how much more active I should be and how much more I could improve my diet. For a while, I thought I was already doing all the right things and that nothing was working anymore because something broke in the metabolism department. But as my workout guru, Jillian Michaels, says, “There’s always an ‘UP’ button.” I hit that button by using the fear of losing money to motivate me and that motivation took me to a happier, healthier, and stronger place.
Thanks StickK! You took my money, but it was worth it!
Whether you’re trying to aggressively pay off your debts or saving for some big goal (like buying a home), the principles of money management are very similar. In many ways, the way you live your life may seem the same because the key to long-term success is more about establishing good ongoing habits and making them a part of your regular decision-making process. In other words, all goals involve a plan, some structure, discipline in practice, the determination to stay on track, and faith in the process.
If you have debts, you can’t successfully pay them down without accepting and following these fundamental guidelines:
When you make a loan payment, a big part of it goes to interest and rest goes to the principal amount that you borrowed. The higher the interest, the harder it is to pay off the borrowed amount. Paying off the high-interest debts first will mean paying less interest overall. Credit cards are typically the high-interest culprits. Once you pay off your credit cards, be sure to pay off the full balance each month going forward.
You could reduce the high-interest debts by consolidating them into a low-interest loan such as a credit line with the bank. If you have student loans from the Canadian government, then you could be getting a tax credit back from the interest portion of your repayment — you may want to hold off on consolidating them with your other debts and pay these off separately.
If you’re not able to get a low-interest credit line, then proceed to pay off the debt with the smallest balance first (of course, while paying the minimums on your other debts). Once that’s paid off, then pay off the next smallest balance and keep going until you slay the rest of them. Some credit cards offer very low to zero percent interest for a limited amount of time (usually a year). If it’s realistic to pay the full balance off within those time constraints, you could consider transferring your other debt balances to such credit cards for a service charge. But please remember…
…just because you transferred your credit card balances to lower-interest options doesn’t mean it’s time to go shopping again. If you can’t take your own debt takedown seriously, then you can’t expect others to take your goals seriously. If the temptation is too much to handle, cancel those cards.
You must be ruthless when it comes to reducing your bills and expenses. There are endless ways to cut costs and the internet is bursting with budgeting tips. Paying off debts doesn’t mean enduring years of suffering. You can still have fun and reward yourself from time to time — you just have to spend wisely and get creative with low-budget options. I’ve created ‘Fun’ancial Tidbits to inspire wise spending and mindful money management. Additionally, it’s essential that you address any emotional spending habits that weaken your will (like gambling or a shopping addiction) because caving into these habits even just once will sabotage your efforts.
Some periods will be tougher than others as you tackle your debt. “Loan Payments” is going to be a major part of your budget for a while. If your budget is complicated, overly ambitious, and not realistic, you could be setting yourself up for possible failure. You should overestimate your expenses as it’s easier to end up with a surplus than it is to get blindsided by an unexpected deficit. It’s also a good idea to forecast your budget ahead by a few months to factor in upcoming events, birthdays, holidays, annual expenses, etc. That way, you can get more strategic ahead of time by reducing your spending further or picking up extra work to make up the difference or to catch up faster.
You might feel like your debt situation offers no hope. The folks at your bank are pros and have seen it all. If you’re shy about going in to talk to someone in person, you can call them and ask them for advice and they can provide service over the phone. They can advise you on your loan payment options and various strategies. These advisors can surprise you with helpful things you maybe never thought of. If you give them a chance to support you, you increase your chances of succeeding in paying off your debts.
It’s understandable if you want to keep your financial woes a private matter; you either don’t want to stress others out or be judged by your problems. You might feel alone and get stressed out as you work hard to unburden yourself of debts. It’s nice to get emotional support from people who really care about you. With team support, you can share stuff, exchange money-saving ideas, and have low-budget gatherings. Heck, you’ll probably find out who your real friends are!
The journey towards financial freedom can seem long and arduous. You have to know that there are many folks out there, just like you, who have worked through seemingly impossible situations to pay off their debts. They put their minds to it, created a plan, and learned a new set of money management skills that set them up for financial success later on. Overcoming a hurdle like this will give you the confidence and good habits to successfully tackle your future goals.
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One of the biggest challenges of being single and managing your finances is that you don’t split your living costs with another person unless you live with a roommate or a few. Managing your own money involves more creativity, drive, perseverance, and self-discipline. The good thing about it is having the independence to make your own decisions on your life and money.
When you live with your significant other, you have two key advantages: 1) You’ve got two incomes that contribute to living costs; 2) You have a combination of strengths to work with. When a couple unites their income and money management skills they can be unstoppable with this winning combination.
Uniting forces and income can also pose many challenges, especially since we each have a unique relationship with money. You might be okay at budgeting, yet your spouse might be hopeless with money. You both could be terrible at money management. You might disagree entirely with your spouse and have very different ideas on how money should be spent. The worst is when the spouse with worse habits has greater influence over the other’s habits or efforts; from there develops resentment or a dynamic of enabling which will sink the household’s finances.
I never want to fight over money with my man, JP. I had seen plenty of that growing up and I know it gets nobody anywhere. Since my biorhythms are obsessively in sync with the days all the different bills are due each month, I’ve always been the one to budget and do all the banking. This seemed like a workable situation until our needs shifted and called for further action.
When we both started trading stocks, we scaled back on shopping and going out so that we could commit more cash to buying stocks. Life felt more frugal because on the surface our spending activities changed; in reality the amount of spending didn’t. As the one paying the bills, I became stressed out from knowing things were heading in a desperate direction. When I tried to make suggestions for improvement, the conversation got tense, and at times, confrontational. I avoided talking about what was really going on — until things got so frustrating that I had no choice but to somehow get JP on board.
Instead of trying to win through argument, I decided to let the numbers do the talking. I printed out all the statements from our banks and credit cards over the previous six months. I made a spreadsheet that divided up our spending into housing, utilities, groceries, alcohol, healthcare, and entertainment, and I tallied the spending for each category. It became very obvious that in lieu of going out for fun, we were shopping more online, eating too much takeout, and drinking a lot at home instead. When we sat down to analyze the numbers, we were both humbled and quite embarrassed with how far we had let things go.
What happened after that, I didn’t see coming. JP became an unstoppable force in minimizing our household spending and he revealed his genius at making a dollar stretch. He got busy looking for the cheapest discount brokerages to trade with, got rid of unnecessary data services, and basically found a way for us to trade stocks the cheapest way possible. All our bills are lower than ever now thanks to his charming persistence in negotiating lower rates with our various service providers. JP also has an uncanny skill of remembering the prices on everything he sees, so he knows where to get the cheapest of anything. He became the rewards points king and we always get money back on things we regularly spend on. He sold everything in the house that we didn’t need in yard sales and on Kijiji. I can go on about his many strategies, but I’ll save it for my ‘fun’ancial tidbits!
Now, we use our combined skill set to optimize our money management. While I do our quarterly budget projections, JP figures out a way to cut the costs down further on those projections. Doing this has also enhanced how we work together in building our investment portfolio.
We have so much respect for each other’s personal ambitions and have made a lot of sacrifices for the other to make these things happen. There were times when it looked like we’d have to walk away from trying to accomplish these goals (such as learning how to trade stocks and writing my book), but it took a united effort with managing our finances to make these possibilities become realities. We still are a ways away from where we want to be financially, but our confidence lies not in how much we have, but in being on the same page with how we manage our money.
The glaring truth came to surface from a few monthly statements and a telling spreadsheet. We can convince ourselves to believe whatever we want to hear, but the numbers don’t lie. You and your spouse just have to be ready for the truth and have the will to evolve your situation TOGETHER.
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